Sunday, November 14, 2010

Yes another angsty love post shush

Every Sunday evening when I put my laundry away, I always feel bad for my one dark pink sock who seems to be missing her sock solemate (haha get it? SOLEmate?) All the other socks get rolled together, so everybody can tell that they were meant to be...but my poor lonely dark pink sock is all alone in the sock drawer. It's not her fault; she's quite a beautiful sock, and I'm not just saying that to make her feel better. But for some reason, she's still by herself.

I don't want to end up like that dark pink sock; alone in a drawer full of sock solemates.

Side note: don't you wish people were like socks, and you could tell who your solemate was based on who looked exactly like you? I mean, it would take all of the drama and ambiguity out of dating if you just knew who you were supposed to end up with.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Boys Boys Blargh

I've had two boyfriends.

My first boyfriend was the guy who flirts with every girl.

My second boyfriend was the guy who's a sweetheart to his girlfriend, and a jerk to the rest of the world.

Finding the midpoint between these two guys has proven to be a rather difficult task.

...in other words, I've been single for three and a half years.

And I'm sort of sick of it.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Don't Go Wastin' Your Emotions

Dearest Bloggity Blog,
I know it's been a while since we last spoke, but I want to start off by saying that it has NOTHING to do with you. You're amazing. And even though I haven't been writing, you're always on my mind. So many things have happened in these last two and a half monthes that I've wanted to share with you. I've had countless moments of "Woah, my life just changed before my eyes...I should BLOG about this!" But I've just been so busy...I know I use that excuse a lot, but trust me, I didn't know what "busy" was before this semester. For real.

Anyways, I could talk about a lot of things here, but instead of doing a mental purge, I think I'd like to talk about what's been on my mind today: Balance. I have SOOOO much going on. I'm in three vocal groups this year (and I have leadership positions in two of the three), I'm Sisterhood Chair in Sigma Alpha Iota (which I LOVE, but it's also a lot of responsibility), I'm an RA (which requires a lot more than people think), I just got another job working at the coffee shop at school (just five hours a week, but that's enough for me right now), and my junior voice recital is THIS SATURDAY...that's right, two days. I can't believe it. I feel prepared enough to do a good job, I think? I mean, I know I could have spent more time on some things if I had more time to spend, but I'm hoping that, regardless, the final product will be something that I can enjoy and be proud of.

In addition to all of this, I've been experiencing a lot of inner struggle lately. I've been questioning what I want to do with my life (both career-wise and otherwise), what my personal morals and ethics are (regarding certain situations), and sometimes even my faith. My mind has been racing with all of these new ideas, but in the meantime I've been trying to tell it to SHUT UP so I can focus on getting all of the work done that I need to. Too many times I've had to brush off my own feelings in order to get stuff done on time for other people.

Today I had an amazing lesson with Betsy Peterson, whom I've been very fortunate to have studied with this semester. She's been a great acting coach for my musical theater portion of my recital, and I'm sad that she'll be moving away in a couple of weeks. Anyways, the lesson didn't start out very amazing...we dove right into re-staging one of my musical theater pieces, upon my request; however, since it's two days before my recital, I soon became VERY overwhelmed with all of the things I need to remember for all 14 of my pieces. I tried to hide my anxiety...but I didn't do a very good job of this because, as usual, as soon as she looked at me and asked "Are you okay?" I fell apart. But I'm so glad I did, because after I explained to her that I was overwhelmed and anxious and nervous and so many other emotions, we had a really good talk. Afterwards, she asked how she could help me...so I asked her what she usually does when she's nervous before a big performance...

I wound up doing yoga for the rest of our time. I used to do yoga every week, but it's been a while. I forgot how much I love yoga, because it helps me so much in ways I can't really begin to describe. People who've never done yoga (or have never done yoga with a proper instructor) just don't get it...seriously, if you've never done it, do it. It's special time that you can take for YOU, to listen to your heart and heal yourself emotionally and spiritually. It's something I'd really like to get back into, some way or another, on a regular basis.

Which brings me to my conclusion (yeah I know, I never tell straightforward stories, if you know me you know that....so props to you if you're still reading this): taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually will always, ALWAYS be more important than getting stuff done to please other people. Now, there are times when getting that stuff done will actually help you mentally/emotionally, so it's good to recognize that too. For example, there's something that I've been meaning to get done for the RA Wellness Committee (yeah, bet you didn't know THAT existed, huh?) for a good week now, that I really just need to get done for my own well being, as well as the well beings of others.

I hope this helped someone, somehow. If not, I apologize, and thanks for reading anyways...but hey, it's my freakin blog, and it helped me to write it, so there. OH and if you're reading this, and Saturday, October 23rd at 7:30 hasn't happened yet, I would really appreciate it if you'd consider heading over to Buik Recital Hall for my junior voice recital. There'll be yummy baked goods and free hugs afterwards, if that helps my case!

Monday, August 2, 2010

On make-up and other things

Can't believe it's the last week of camp...well, for me at least. I'm leaving camp this weekend, and so not looking forward to saying goodbye to so many people who changed my life, especially when it's probably forever. Then I have a couple days at home (literally) to pack everything up so I can move into my dorm in Neibuhr on Wednesday for RA training.

Yeah yeah, growing up and moving on hurts, sookie sookie la la...but that wasn't the point of this post. No, I came here today to talk to you about a ridiculous obsession among the female population: make-up. Sure, I'll admit, I've been wearing it in moderation almost every day for the past few years. My daily routine usually consists of foundation, mascara, and occasionally eyeshadow (maybe even eyeliner-if you see me wearing eyeliner, you know I mean business). However, I've put this daily routine on hold this summer, since I've been working at a camp where time is tight and nobody really cares what you look like, since (most) people aren't trying to impress anyone. I don't blowdry or straighten my hair either, I usually just through it back in a ponytail or messy bun and add a headband, so my hair's out of my face. Not caring what I look like too much really cuts back on my morning routine, so I can sleep in (well, sorta...)

So since it's the last week of camp, I've been thinking: when I go back to school, will I start wearing make-up again? Or should I keep up the natural look? Then I came up with several reasons why I shouldn't wear make-up (at least every day):

A) It's expensive. Especially if you're like me and insist on wearing Clinique, because it is better and different and way less flaky than the drugstore brands. But seriously, even though I don't wear a ton of make-up regularly, I still spend a good amount of money (which is not a necessity) when I could be using that money for more necessary things, either in my life or in others. I bet if I took all the money that I would be spending on make-up in a year and donated to charity, it could be put to so much better use. Maybe it could save someone's life.

B) Its effects are questionable. Most girls wear make-up to attract boys (I know this isn't the only reason make-up is worn, but it's a major one). However, I've been told by several guy friends that they prefer natural beauty to made-up beauty.

C) It hides who you really are. Personally, I would rather someone fall in love with who I really am, flaws and all. I wouldn't want to constantly be hiding my flaws from the ones I love-I've learned from experience that it's better to accept and embrace your flaws than to pretend they don't exist. This includes facial flaws. After all, if someone can't stand being with you because you have acne or your eyes aren't defined enough or your lips aren't dark enough, do you really want to be friends with them?

In general, I'm trying to live a simpler life, and not wearing make-up everyday will be a small step towards that goal. I'll keep make-up around to wear for concerts, plays, and other performances (because those are exceptions-onstage the lights and the distance can wash out a pale blonde like me, and your facials are SOOOO important!). Maybe I'll still wear it for very special occasions, we'll see.

That's all I got for now. Time to go to bed, another day at Lord of Life tomorrow! My team's awesome this week; for our staff night we went to Goodwill and bought ridiculous outfits, then went bowling in them! I went as a beautiful fairy princess =) and whenever anyone asked "So what's up with the costumes?" my response was "What costumes?"

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Summer and Such

Oh hey. Yep, over halfway through the summer, and I figured it was time for a summer post. So I just read over my last post from the beginning of May, about how I don't know what I want to do with my life and I'm nervous about working at a new camp. Well, I guess I'm happy to say that it's been an amazing, life-changing summer at Luther Park thusfar, and I've gotten some new insight on what I want to do with my life. Can't say I've completely figured it out, but I know I want to work with people. Kids to be precise. So far my middle school cabins have been my favorite, so I think I might want to teach/work with middle schoolers in the future, or maybe high schoolers though. The littler kids really drain me; I mean, they're adorable, but even when I'm on day camp teams I get exhausted after a few hours. Plus, I really like getting to know my campers, and middle schoolers are at such an interesting place in their lives; they're just beginning to mature and there's so much going on in their minds. I feel like, as a music teacher, I could really make an impact on middle schoolers' lives. I remember being in middle school: most of the time I was miserable, except in band and choir because I had an amazing band director and a...well, a decent choir director (fellow Mccrackenites know what I'm talking about).

Okay, so I sat down and started this blog not really knowing what I was going to talk about, and I already have a fairly lengthy paragraph. There are several other things I could expand upon in this blog, but since I'm short on time I'll just make a list. Sound good? (I tack that phrase on to the end of explanations to my campers all the time, i.e. "Okay girls, so it's flop-on-bunk time, which means we're all going to be super silent and nap, read, write, or make friendship bracelets in our bunks. Any talking should be kept at a whisper. Sound good?" In reality, I don't really care if it 'sounds good' to the campers, because it's what's going to happen. Same applies to me making this list. So if it doesn't sound good to you, you may simply stop reading this blog. Sound good?)

Future Ambitions
-work at a church/Christian organization at some point in my life, possibly as a youth or music director
-open up a bakery with Toushea, possibly entitled "Sweet Cuppin' Cakes"
-sing lead for a traveling non-profit music ministry team (this might be happening soon, I have friends at camp who have done it. My only question is when I want to do it, and how I'll raise the funds)
-record a solo album of (mostly) original songs and have the proceeds go to some sort of charity (maybe a charity that I will found, probably having something to do with depression and suicide prevention)
-go on a fundraising tour for said album
-be a choir director
-be a private voice teacher
-direct musicals (I'm hoping to work at a school where, as the choir director, I'll also get to direct the musicals, so I can keep theater in my life)
-start an indie rock band with Toushea (yes it's GOING to happen)
-dye the tips of my hair purple
-avoid working in the food industry at all costs. I would hate it. (working at a coffee shop is the one exception, and might be happening this year)

There's more, but I really need to head over to the kitchen and start helping with dinner prep. Yeah, I'm on kitchen staff this week since there's not that many campers. We'll see how this goes.

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes

Turn and face the strain.
So here I am, with three weeks of school left before the summer, and I thought "hey, I've got a ton of crap on my mind, maybe I can go back to that blog I started way back and January and get some stuff off my chest". I remember one of my new years resolutions was to write in this blog regularly. Yep, didn't happen, and neither did my other two resolutions. My excuse for all three of those failures is that "I've been too busy".
However, I've realized lately that I'll never stop being busy. I'm a sophomore music education major in three ensembles and taking four private lessons, along with ministry team, Sigma Alpha Iota, and sometimes theater (less and less now, but I'm in the one-acts! Come see me May 15 and 16 at 8 PM in the Mill! Shameless plug, now back to your regularly scheduled programming). Next year I'll be an RA which means even more responsibilites, and I'm already sort of freaking out about it because my workload is going up next year too. I'm definitely cutting back to just two lessons, and maybe just two ensembles (I really want to stay in all three though). Then after I graduate I'll be going into the "real world" and hopefully getting a teaching job...and as I've become more and more aware of, teaching is quite a time-consuming job, and I'll be putting in a lot more hours after the school day ends. And once, God willing, I get married and have kids...I don't even want to think about it. Never sleeping again. Oh life.
This idea of me never not being busy has made me seriously consider dropping out of school. Or changing majors (because music ed is exceptionally strenuous), but I honestly don't know what else I would do with my life. I have an aspiration of using music for world relief...if I could just do benefit concerts for the rest of my life (or even just ten or so years) I would be happy. That might even be something I try to do. I don't know, part of me feels like I'm wasting my money and my good years at school pursuing a degree that I'm not 100% sure is right for me, but then miss practical kicks in and tells me that I'll regret dropping out. But seriously, when stuff gets tough, I fantasize of dropping out of school and doing mission work/world relief for the rest of my life.
You still reading? Kudos to you, I have to say I don't know how interesting I would find this if I were someone else reading it. But hey, I'm not trying to dis your tastes or anything. Anyways, I'm also really excited/nervous/anxious about this summer. I originally wanted to work at Lutherdale again, but long, aggravating story short, that didn't work out. Fortunately, I got a job offer at another Lutheran bible camp called Luther Park. Lauren, the youth director at my church at home, worked there for multiple summers, and judging on what she told me about it and what the director told me in my interview, it sounds pretty awesome and a good fit for me. There's a lot more off-site day camp opportunities (those were always my favorite weeks at Lutherdale) and the schedule works better with my schedule this summer-I have two weeks between school and camp, then I'm leaving camp two weeks early to go to school for RA training. I also get the entire week of July 4 off, which will be nice....since the camp is in Danbury, WI, which is 7 1/2 hours away. Yeah, I'll basically be living there for the summer and not coming home every other weekend like I did last year, but I'm mostly ok with that. There's a couple handfuls of people I'll miss in Skokie, but quite honestly my "home friends" are dwindling. Which sucks, but it is what it is. People grow up, as I'm learning first hand.
In conclusion, David Bowie was a pretty cool guy. And don't you go telling me that Gaga is the new Bowie. False statement.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Minor Details

So I spent a great deal of today trying to plan out my life; well, mostly the remainder of my college life, but the experience and qualifications I come out of school with will have the utmost effect on how the rest of my life goes. Wow, did that sound pretentious or what? Apologies.
Anyways, I'm sticking with a music education major, and I figured out today that with that major I should be able to graduate in February 2013, which means four years of classes and then a semester of student teaching (I know 4.5 years is still considered "graduating late" for most people, but since I was expecting to take 5 years like many other music ed majors, I was very happy to figure this out, and 4.5 years is pretty much "graduating on time" for music ed). For a while I was planning on minoring in Theology and Church Music-sounds right up my ally, right? However, a) adding this minor would definitely set me back a semester at least, and b) I took my first religion class this semester and detested it, mainly because my professor was ridiculous and treated us like we were already in seminary...and upon talking to other people about their various religion professors, I can't say I've heard of any exceptionally wonderful ones at Elmhurst. I've also learned of several other ways I can incorporate service and discipleship into my professional career and my life in general (I'm looking at internships, service trips, and the like).
So I'm not going to minor in Theology and Church Music anymore. Thankfully the one religion class I suffered through at least counts as a gen ed, so it wasn't a complete waste of time, even though I can't say I learned much. But after I assembled my plan for 4.5 years, I realized that a theater minor might fit nicely into that. I emailed Janice Pohl, the theater department head, and she said I might even be able to get a "theater endorsement" since I'm on the education path. I'm not 100% sure what that means, but maybe if I get it I'll be able to teach theater in addition to music? That would be awesome. I was actually seriously considering going into theater ed for a while, but Niles North Theater kind of scared me away from that. I really love directing though, so maybe I could be a middle or high school choir director who also directs the musicals or something. We'll see what happens, when I grow up...